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Good and not-so-good advice about gender.

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binders and passing [Mar. 11th, 2010|04:51 pm]
Good and not-so-good advice about gender.


I'm 16, female-bodied but still confused about gender identity and such. When I was about 14 I decided that I was definitely FTM, but since then I've changed a lot and don't have any definite answers. I don't want any kind of surgery right now (and probably can't anyway), but I still feel very uncomfortable with having breasts and a female figure. I don't think I would want to do any permanent transitioning until after I finish school next year anyway, as I couldn't cope with that sort of 'coming out' yet and I'm at a really small school so it would become a huge deal (I have in passing mentioned to a few close friends that I'm not totally comfortable with being female though). My question is this: I already have short hair and have been 'mistaken' for a boy on a few occasions due to my wearing mostly masculine clothing. Do you think wearing a binder would be enough for now for me to pass? Or would it look strange with the rest of my body? I'm not really that curvy but I do have noticeably female hips.

[User Picture]From: evidence_lost
2010-03-12 02:11 pm (UTC)
Oh great, thanks! This looks really helpful. I've seen some other stuff about binding, but most of it wasn't very useful.
I knew I'd mis-phrased something! Thanks so much, of course that's what I meant to say (hate writing posts in a rush, always end up not getting the words right).
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[User Picture]From: samwhise
2010-03-12 07:11 pm (UTC)
Glad I could help. And yeah, language can get a little tricky because there are so few widely-known words to talk about trans issues that don't implicitly make the junk people were assumed to be born with more important than the way we experience our lives/bodies/etc.

Good luck :)
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