|How do you ask what's trans-friendly?
||[Jan. 18th, 2010|08:34 am]
Good and not-so-good advice about gender.
The BC Wildlife Federation has a weekend women's outdoors course that I want to get my friends to come to. I'm already a member of the organization, but I tend to get read as cissexed, and my butchness is within bounds familiar to the organizational culture (think: female tree-planters). So I don't know if it's transsexual/intersex/gender-variant inclusive or not.|
How do I ask?
I could just phone up and say "I work with a lot of transsexual, intersexed and gender-variant women and I wanted to make sure this would be okay" or "I was wondering if this would be a problem." but this bothers me because it's asking permission to call ourselves women. I wouldn't phone up a restaurant and ask "Can bisexual women and lesbians use your washroom?" because it implies that "No." is a reasonable answer.
My best approach thus is "I have several friends who'd be interested in coming. Several of them are a combination of butch, intersexed and transsexual. Their experience is that while many organizations welcome them as they would any other woman, some aren't very friendly. I know that your organization is serious about doing outreach, so I figure you'd be welcoming, but I wanted to talk to you before I tell my friends that they will feel safe at your event."
I thought of also volunteering my time to help them with any questions.