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How do you ask what's trans-friendly? [Jan. 18th, 2010|08:34 am]
Good and not-so-good advice about gender.


The BC Wildlife Federation has a weekend women's outdoors course that I want to get my friends to come to. I'm already a member of the organization, but I tend to get read as cissexed, and my butchness is within bounds familiar to the organizational culture (think: female tree-planters). So I don't know if it's transsexual/intersex/gender-variant inclusive or not.

How do I ask?

I could just phone up and say "I work with a lot of transsexual, intersexed and gender-variant women and I wanted to make sure this would be okay" or "I was wondering if this would be a problem." but this bothers me because it's asking permission to call ourselves women. I wouldn't phone up a restaurant and ask "Can bisexual women and lesbians use your washroom?" because it implies that "No." is a reasonable answer.

My best approach thus is "I have several friends who'd be interested in coming. Several of them are a combination of butch, intersexed and transsexual. Their experience is that while many organizations welcome them as they would any other woman, some aren't very friendly. I know that your organization is serious about doing outreach, so I figure you'd be welcoming, but I wanted to talk to you before I tell my friends that they will feel safe at your event."

I thought of also volunteering my time to help them with any questions.


[User Picture]From: estrobutch
2010-01-18 05:05 pm (UTC)
Don't ask for permission. Put it on them. Tell 'em you want to confirm that it'll be a welcoming environment for all women regardless of their gender expression, sexuality, cis/trans status, body or medical history. and yeah offer to help them make sure they are if your up for that.
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[User Picture]From: 1_2_suckerpunch
2010-01-18 05:09 pm (UTC)
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From: fall_of_sophia
2010-01-18 08:24 pm (UTC)
yeah, I'm thinking along the lines of:

"Can transsexual, intersex, and gender non-conforming women feel assured that this is a safe and welcoming environment?"
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[User Picture]From: routemaps
2010-01-19 01:20 am (UTC)
Yes, like this, focus on what you DO want rather than what you don't want to see.
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